Being Consistent 100% Of The Time Is A Parenting Myth

Is your schedule busy right now?  Does the chaos and unpredictability stir up self-judgment and guilt for not being perfectly consistent?

If so, you’ll love today’s Mad2Glad Parenting Tip because I’m going to expose the parenting myth of being consistent 100% of the time.

If you could choose one focus this week – one strategy you know is key to boosting your child’s self-control – what would it be?

And, in turn, what does that mean you can let go of?

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  • This is such a good question for me to think about, as I am currently spending days with my 6 month old first grandchild, Phineas. At this age there is little self-control with regard to the behavioral development we parents are usually looking for. But I am noticing much more subtle level of him learning control in both large and small motor development. The best thing I can do is to keep offering safe opportunities for us to engage with each other and others while: making faces, touching toes, swinging, talking (me) as he grunts and gurgles and vocalizes whatever, going for long walks, lots of tummy-time (and joining him on the floor – I do my pushups, which he loves to watch), giving him time to engage with the tags on his stuffed toys as well as whatever adult items are safe (he is far more interested in the things he sees adults use than his toys), playing the guitar and letting him touch it (and suck on it!). One of the most interesting things for him has been an unopened bag of potato chips (I posted a short video on my personal Google+. I can let go of trying to find things just for him, take a breath, and then ask myself, “What would I enjoy doing right now that he could engage with in some way, even if it is just watching?” After a certain amount of interactive time, he seems to get “full”, and then will engage with his own stuff as I do my “adult” stuff.

    BTW, I’ve been coaching parents for years to give up trying to be consistent (with some obvious exceptions, e.g., food, exercise), but also pay attention to the expectations that get formed when we have been consistent with something for a while.


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