Does your child “hate” going to school?
Does she dawdle in the morning, taking an extra long time to get ready and require consistent reminders just to get out the door?
If so, you’re familiar with the frustration of the school-morning battle that sometimes results in yelling and oftentimes results in being late.
Children who hate school and express serious signs of distress, as reported by one mom who said, “My son said he wants to kill himself,” are not trying to be hurtful. They are hurting.
Behavior you see as disrespectful or harmful is a signal that something is not working. Read on for 4 strategies to help your child become more comfortable at school.
First, get to the bottom of the issue by asking yourself these 3 questions:
1. Is my child properly academically stimulated?
Whether you have a child who is academically gifted or one with a learning disability, BORED leads to bad behavior (due to concepts that are too advanced or not advanced enough).
2. Does my child have reflections of success throughout his school day?
Success comes in many forms: praise from a teacher, positive attention from a peer, and grades on assignments. If multiple aspects of school have negative associations for your child it makes every day feel like diving into a snake pit.
3. Does the environment suit my child’s sensory needs?
So many children these days have an overactive fight or flight stress response that make certain noises, textures, smells, etc. maddening, where it’s literally impossible for the brain to “keep it together.” Read what a sensory processing disorder feels like here.
Your job as a parent is to create a safe space for your child to express himself and become his best and brightest self.
You are his advocate and he brings complaints to you because you’re the best person to “fix” his distress.
Help your child become more comfortable at school with these Mad2Glad parenting tips:
- Support him emotionally. Say, “I can see school has been hard on you lately. I am working with your teacher to do everything we can to make it better.” When you speak straight to his heart he feels seen and heard, so the intensity of behaviors often decreases.
- Empathize with him. Notice what you feel like when you dislike your work, have too much on your plate, and/or dislike your work environment. Share authentically with your child about how it feels for you on those days and just BE together without trying to fix or offer a solution.
- Get your child checked by a pediatric chiropractor. Children with anxiety, depression, and/or ADHD (or any other medical diagnosis) commonly have interference in how their brain sends “happy chemicals” to the rest of their body. A pediatric chiropractor can offer a simple solution to enhance your child’s mood and chemical balance within a matter of months – dramatically improving your child’s experience of school and life. Find a highly trained and super knowledgeable one through The National Wellness Foundation.
- Build fun activities into the daily rhythm. Nobody likes to wake up feeling anxious, dreading the day ahead. While moving toward more loving connection and positive school environment be sure to give your child a break from the stress by arranging to include the everyday things he loves (e.g., fresh air, games together, cooking experiments, play activities).
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