From the time we are infants, we learn how to navigate the world through other people. And for most of us, the behaviors we learn as we grow are modeled through our parents or guardians.
Think about it…
Would you know how to properly use a spoon and fork if you were never exposed to eating with dining utensils?
The answer is probably no. You’d most likely instinctively use your fingers–natures silverware.
That’s fine for when you’re in your home. But, can you imagine how ridiculous you’d look at a business dinner shoveling soup into your mouth from the palm of your hand?
Or how about social skills?
Most likely you had a parent or guardian show you what’s acceptable when interacting with other people.
For instance, you wouldn’t pull your co-worker Barbara’s hair because she interrupted you in a meeting or call your boss a “cotton-headed-ninny-muggins” because he disagreed with your idea.
You might fantasize about it. But, you know that acting upon those inappropriate behaviors would lead to undesirable consequences.
You get the point.
There are obvious skills–like using a spoon–that all humans must learn as we grow up.
However, there are also less obvious behaviors that we often neglect to teach our kids. And, unfortunately, they sometimes go unnoticed…until these behavioral problems become a real challenge.
As a parent or a guardian, you may be struggling with a child who just won’t leave you alone, a kid who can’t play nice with his siblings, or perhaps a child who is overly dependent on you.
Much like learning manners, these are all problems that can be resolved when we empower our children and teach them how to properly communicate and manage their emotions.
If you’re dealing with one–or all–of the problems above, today is your lucky day as I’ve put together the ultimate guide to empowering your kids to be Responsible, Kind, and Emotionally in Control.
Keep reading to discover my practical tips, tools, and techniques…
3-Part Holistic Approach Essential for Children to Develop Self-Control
Is the stress of a demanding and controlling child–one with ADHD, Autism, or Giftedness–wearing you down?
If you’ve tried everything to regain peace at home but nothing works, you must watch this short video. You’ll be relieved to discover that there is no ONE magic bullet to suddenly make your children want to listen.
Instead, you will learn the 3-Part Holistic Approach Essential for Children to Develop Self-Control. Spoiler alert: the voice in the video is not me; it’s Dr. Tye Moe, pediatric chiropractor and husband extraordinaire! Watch now.
As you’ll learn in the video, your child’s acting out/lack of self-control is not your fault!
Countless other smart parents have fallen victim to this common belief and have ended up going through book after book, tip after tip, looking for the ONE thing.
And while these are great resources (and they do work), they often focus on only one area that your child needs. They forget that a holistic approach is what is truly needed to help your child improve his self-control.
To read the entire blog post on holistic approaches, click here.
My Child Relies on Me to Fix Everything
Do you ever feel frustrated because your child relies on you to fix everything?
One major reason your child expects you to solve problems, particularly if he has ADHD, Sensory Processing Disorder, or Autism, is because in the past he needed you to.
Are you ready to shift that so he takes responsibility for his own behavior?
3 Positive Parenting Strategies to Raise Siblings Who Love Each Other
You want your children to love their siblings.
Siblings who have witnessed each other’s lives have the potential to bring deepest awareness around who we really are, simply because they have seen more of our “range.”
Range of good and bad, range of successes and failures.
They know when we are being courageous and vulnerable, and also when we are hiding behind a self-built wall for protection.
So, how do you raise siblings who love each other? Here are 3 tips…
- Acknowledge strengths and unique gifts aloud. For example, “Senia (my sister) is fabulous at being in the media to inspire change, and dressing to the nines. Samantha is great at being on stage as a professional speaker and offering practical, heartfelt parenting strategies.”
- Teach the skill of expressing difficult emotions and taking ownership. For example, Person A: “I felt disappointed when you said I’m oversensitive. I know I have big feelings and do my best to express them in a way that isn’t overwhelming.” Person B: “I’m sorry what I said made you feel bad. Sometimes I am not in a place where I can be emotionally supportive, and I should have let you know rather than judging you.”
- Model language that celebrates one’s accomplishments and encourages vision. For example, when one of us has something fabulous like a new dress or business opportunity, we literally say aloud “That’s for me!” This allows us to express desire without jealousy and opens a conversation on what we can do to move in that exciting direction ourselves.
Family connections can be some of our greatest teachers to catalyze growth and healing.
For more info on raising siblings who love each other, plus a personal story about me and my sister, read the full article here.