Are you a real go-getter? A high achiever? A “tackle and overcome” sort of person?
…that is, before your little one dictated where all your time, energy and attention went?
If you want to feel the satisfaction of finishing a task uninterrupted for the first time in years, without a clinging child on your leg, then you’ll want to learn 4 Separation Strategies to keep in your pocket at all times!
Children follow the caregivers they love oh-so-much around the house demanding attention because they haven’t fully developed their ability to self-entertain or sustain their attention span enough to separate. So how to separate from your little one in a way that promotes a secure attachment when she doesn’t know how to un-cling in the first place?
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- Engage your little one in thoughtful play for 15 solid minutes then state what you’re going to do. Telling her your next step (rather than asking) and giving a solid good-bye rather than sneaking away keeps her in-the-loop so she won’t need to follow you around.
- Rock her body. Enveloping your child in a soothing rhythm calms the brain and creates a sense of ease internally. Remember how you rocked her to sleep as an infant? Use this same motion to your advantage and create a tranquil mood, which leads to greater ability to separate peacefully.
- Acknowledge her psychological need. Like all humans, children thrive when they are reassured of their good, loved and special qualities. “Feeding the positive” stimulates her confidence, a requirement to internal security and satisfaction in playing alone.
- Add separation games into your play routine. Hide-and-seek, peek-a-boo and jack-in-the-box (where you jump behind a corner and jump back to reappear) practice the act of leaving and reuniting.
Remember, your child’s brain has a long way to go before it’s fully developed so you’ll receive only small bits of “me” time at first. As this extends into longer and longer periods you’ll return to the high-functioning caregiver you crave to be. And remember, build-in personal rejuvenation as you obtain more “me” time as that’s one achievement that allows you to fully enjoy your family and life!
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