Have you ever felt the heartache of when your child reports being bullied? Do you worry about what advice to give that will actually make a difference?
You’re not alone.
There’s an old adage that unintentionally disempowers youth and adults alike. You probably know it: “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.”
Wow, what an untrue statement! If you are a parent of a child being bullied, or grew up in a household with emotional abuse you understand the damage to self-esteem and confidence that occurs deeply inside.
Our world is evolving where we recognize the truth of the fact that EVERYone deserves to feel safe and worthy…so how do we accomplish that in the face of freedom of speech?
Check out this week’s Mad2Glad Parenting video for a step-by-step solution that is effective and empowering! It could be the BEST 7-minutes you spend this week 🙂
Steps to Stop Bullying & Give Your Child a Strong Voice:
- Have a conversation about feelings. Don’t worry about figuring out exactly what happened in the interaction, instead focus on how it felt before, during, and after.
- List out empowering responses. Ask your child what they could have said if they could say anything they wanted. Call this their “Strong Voice” and help shape the response so that it’s also appropriate.
- Role-play “what if” scenarios. Act out scenarios of “what if,” meaning “what if this happened again? What would you say/do?” Literally have someone role-play being the bully…oftentimes this is best done by a sibling, peer or adult other than a parent because you’re likely not going to be mean enough. A “safe” but also good “pretend mean” peer or sibling will help elicit a small stress response so your child gets to practice using a Strong Voice when the body is stressed, like in real life.
- Teach your child to be upstanding. Repeat the above steps to identify solutions if your child witnesses bullying rather than being the target.
Being brave is a skill that can be taught, and your part in shaping your child’s inner and outer voice is important.
When you role-play, remember to bring in a lighthearted energy so this exercise feels fun. If it’s enjoyable it doubles as quality time that not only contributes to empowerment, it also promotes bonding.
I’d love to hear from you now…
…what solutions have helped your family deal with bullying and nurture “brave?”
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