Teaching Children Gratitude Using The 5 Love Languages

By November 24, 2015 Happiness 5 Comments

Do you wish you child was more grateful?  Does she have all she could ever need – and more – yet still lack gratitude and appreciation?

Here’s something crazy – children do not inherently feel gratitude.  What?!

Given how well you provide for them you’d think you could expect a little appreciation over their food, clothing, warm bed, loving attention, toys, etc.   However, children don’t express appreciation naturally because they’re wired for survival.

Even though you allow them to biologically thrive with your amazing care, the only way they’re going to recognize the gift in it all is through explicit teaching of gratitude.

Discover 5 easy ways to teach your child gratitude using Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages.  Watch now.

Gratitude extends way beyond learning to say “thank you.”

It’s a mindfulness practice that allows you to better show your love, and feel loved in return.

I’m curious, do you know the love languages for your family members?  If not, discover them here and share in the comments below how you you teach gratitude at home.

As always, thanks so much for watching and exploring new ways to connect with your children so you enjoy spending time together.  What you do matters and I’m SO grateful you carved out some time to be with me today.


  • Bonnie Rocke says:

    Samantha, I’m so excited to see the 5 Love Languages broadcast here! Recently my husband said, “I don’t know what you want. I do all these things for you. I spend time with you. I’m stuck!” His primary love language is acts of service, and we always thought mine was quality time. When I answered with, “What you do for me doesn’t mean anything if you don’t talk to me nicely,” we just looked at each other. My love language is actually words of affirmation! It’s amazing how much difference that has made to realize this. I would encourage EVERYONE to figure out their love language and those of their children. Using them gives wonderful results!

    • Samantha says:

      Communicating in different love languages can feel absolutely maddening because each person thinks they’re expressing love but neither feel they’re receiving it. Thanks so much for sharing your story Bonnie! I know you’ve been diligent about building a bridge 🙂

  • Jay says:

    What a brilliant video – so powerful and delivered with ease and poise. Gonna start working on these 5 areas with my child today. Thank you!

  • Craig Spofford says:

    Hi Samantha – This was very helpful today as I have decided to use this tool this weekend at church – I am co-leading a message on encouragement and we were thinking how encouraging it is when people know our love language – and they know ours. Hearing this in the context of kids is very helpful as I have often targeted this at pre-marital and marital counseling, Thanks for your work!

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