We all know what to say on Father’s Day. A version of acknowledgment and affection is typically the first thing…
…but what is the last thing you would ever say?
Would you ever admit that parts of your childhood were difficult? That Dad sometimes made you feel scared by his yelling or punishments?
That’s the conversation my Dad and I had this past Sunday.
I had to get really real about what my truth was before braving this conversation. I reflected on the times that I hid in my bedroom, afraid to come out.
It’s easy to get stuck there. In the negative. In the blame.
But is that the whole truth?
My answer is no.
The whole truth is that my parents did the best they could raising us five kids. We had shelter, clothing, food, and love.
We had a cabin on a beautiful lake, ideal for swimming and fishing until we were sunburnt and the allotted two mini candy bars and one soda each day were consumed.
I was supported financially and emotionally through graduate school, and developed a strong sense of Confidence, Drive, and Independence.
My dad gave me this gift.
AND he was scary at times when I was growing up. I hid in my bedroom. Kept my mouth closed. Sheltered my heart.
As a 30-something female I have to work to let go of this fear and step into my own Power. Strengthen my own voice by telling the truth so that I can heal my heart, and my relationship with my dad.
We had a nearly 2-hour conversation about this on Father’s Day and I was so glad God gave me the courage to do so because my dad really listened.
He was open to hearing the truth and said, “I respect you for caring about our relationship enough to come to me rather than pull away.”
It caused me to wonder how many others struggle with their fathers. How many others tell the truth, the WHOLE truth, which is couched in Love and Acceptance?
As a Mad2Glad Parent Coach, I strive to create Peaceful families that Enjoy being together, and that means telling the truth about parenting tactics that harm relationships with children and offering new strategies that help them become productive, happy human beings.
What if all children grew up in a home where they felt safe to express themselves fully? Would they be happier earlier in life?
Would they avoid the struggle I went through in my 20’s and 30’s, deciding if I wanted to be in relationship with my parents?
I hope so because I Believe in Families and Harmony and Love.
If you had the courage to say Anything to Your father what would it be? I’d love to hear it and support you in strengthening your voice!
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