Earlier this week I was interviewed by the best pediatric chiropractor in town, Dr. Tye Moe, who also happens to be my husband 🙂
Since we both specialize in kids’ and families’ health and connection I have firsthand experience seeing how a chiropractic adjustment calms a child’s brain from the inside-out.
The changes parents see in mood, sleep and immune system thrill me each and every time!
But we always get parents asking, “What can I do to help them feel calm and more in-control?” Especially during the time of Back2School transition.
To stop the fighting, yelling and frustration you have to realize the Back2School transition is a time of anxiety, meltdown and battles because nothing is predictable.
When kids feel out of control internally they show it outwardly by trying to rule the roost and MAKE things go their way.
To avoid the school-morning battle and get them into the classroom (and you off to work!) free of stress and frustration create predictability with these Three Strategies For Back2School Ease:
1. Ask “I wonder” questions in advance. Brainstorming aloud with your child about what the bus/car ride will be like, the classroom, the teacher, and being around other kids allows her to process anxieties in advance.
Ask, “I wonder what your new classroom will look like.”
Avoid telling her everything you know – this is HER time to process.
2. Give her opportunities for control. When kids disrespect authority it often means their psychological need for control isn’t being met. Find appropriate ways to honor control needs.
Allow her to choose her clothes, breakfast, and music to listen to during the ride to school (in advance!).
Avoid making all the choices for her because you’re worried you won’t get out the door on time. If she’s resistant to you calling the shots you’ll have a morning battle and get behind schedule anyway.
3. Set a positive expectation. Let’s face it, you’re both nervous about how smooth the transition will go. Intentionally talk about what the good parts of Back2School will be.
Ask, “What fun activity should we do after school, no matter what?”
Avoid threatening to remove the fun if things are rough. You both need the reprieve.
Remember, what YOU do matters so carve out extra time and be thoughtful about how you connect. You’ll be glad you did!